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{Rusty} Under the Sun: Fruit of the Spirit- Love Your Wives

Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

Fruite of the Spirit: Love Your Wives

I spent nearly a decade on active duty in the US Navy.  I saw more than my share of failed marriages.  Many never even knew God.  I have been married to Sara for over a decade now.  We have had our rough seas, but we have made it through, and I can’t help but think that it’s because we’ve had God guiding one or both of us.

Far too many men think that “I am married, so she does what I say, and that is that!”  Boy, are you wrong!  The vast majority of failed marriages are because one or both of the participants don’t think the other is pulling their share.  A lot of the times it’s the men that think they are entitled to a hot meal when they get home, a cold beer, and an uninterrupted game on the tube after.  Wrong again!

If you want to make a marriage work, then you need to approach it the way Jesus approached his bride, the Church.  He didn’t demand anything from her.  On the contrary, he helped her, washed her, got her ready, and then when she was clean and dressed in the purest of linens took her as his bride, in front of the whole world.  He made this promise, everlasting, so that we would know what we should model our relationships after.  All we have to do is be willing to put our mate first.

So often, you will find that a woman is willing to bend over backwards to please her husband.  Cook his favorite meals any day of the week.  Mix a drink after a tough day at work.  Let him out for a night with the fellas.  How often do men try to “hang the moon” for their wives anymore?  Today’s society is so male-centric that it’s sometimes frowned upon when a man shows an interest in taking care of his wife the way he ought to.  It is really quite simple;
If you want your spouse to do it for you, then you should be willing to do it for them!!!

I can’t say that enough.  In our house, Sara tends house and raises the girls.  I have to work outside the home.  If she wanted to swap, I would be happy to let her, and she knows it.  I also know, that if I can’t take people anymore, that she is willing to go back to work and I can stay home.  We both help out with the farm chores.  We both take care of the girls when we can, but for the ten to twelve hours a day that I am gone,  it’s her.  She’s pretty good at it, and I don’t tell her often enough.

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***Please join me next week as we look at the  exhortation for the wife, “must respect her husband.” If you have missed any of the prior discussions in this series you can find them here: Introduction, Love Your God. As always please feel free to share the posts, just remember to link back to the original. You never know who will be blessed because you shared this.***

 

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Fruit of the Spirit: Love Your God and The Bloggers Brag Pinterest Party

Before we can love our husbands, our kids, our friends, our neighbors, or even our enemies we need to know God and love God. It is from Him that we  learn what love is to look like. It is from him we learn how love is to behave. It is from him that we learn to recognize love when it shown to us. “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8

Love Your God

It is through spending time in scripture that we get to know who God is. It is through the development of our relationship with him that we get know him. Once you commit your life to God have you continued to pursue Him? Or does your pursuit of God simply occur on a Sunday morning? Getting to know who God is, who he was, and who he will be, can not be fully achieved by hearing one man speak once a week for 15-30 minutes at a time. You need to fill your heart and your mind with His word. In the same way, we must nourish our bodies with good healthy food daily so we have energy to go complete our tasks, so must we nourish our souls daily. “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17

As we get to know God we learn that we are called first to love him with all our being. (Luke 10:27) The question so often when faced with this though is what does this look like? Well in part it is talking(praying) and listening (reading scripture) to Him. Another facet of loving God is acting on that love, and stepping up answering the call he has set forth to believers. “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.  In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5: 13-16 In other words live in such a way that you are pointing others back to God in all that you do.

At the end of the day remember this: God loves you. God is the perfect example of unconditional love. No matter how much we love Him it will never be perfect. We will stumble. We will fall. At times we may even backslide in our walks with Him. God knows this. He is not surprised by our sinful and selfish nature. That is why he sent Jesus to die on the cross. So you wouldn’t have to pay the penalty for your sin. Jesus paid that penalty. All you need to do is accept Jesus. Have you? If not I would be more than happy to discuss this more with you. Just know that you do not need to earn God’s love. He loves us right where we are. That is not to say he doesn’t call us to live a life that would be honoring to him, because he does, instead I am saying as long as you are seeking him and putting him first in all you do then you are on the right path.

Join me next week as we take a look at things from the husband’s perspective, and reflect upon the verse, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5: 33 And if you missed last week’s post on love please go check out Fruit of the Spirit: Love -Introduction.

***Have you ever considered your walk with God to be a relationship of give and take? In what ways do you seek to develop your relationship with him?***

***If there is anything on your heart that you would like to share that I didn’t cover, please feel free to bring it up in the comments. I would love to be able to answer questions, even if only to say that is a good question I had never considered it and I don’t know. Either way know I am here for you and would love to hear your thoughts.***

Now I would also like to introduce The Bloggers Brag Pinterest Party. I have contributed to the Pinterest Party for a couple of weeks now. It has been a great opportunity for my blog to find new readers and for me to find helpful blogs on a variety of subjects. Last week my introduction post on love (for the fruit of the spirit) gathered the most clicks of any link shared. This gave me the opportunity this week to co-host. So with no further adieu I bring to you The Bloggers Brag Pinterest Party.

 

 

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My post for Fruit of the Spirit:  Love was the most clicked on the last Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party, and so that means that I am the

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  and the co-host for the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party this week!    What that means for you is that you are able to link up this week here at [Sara] Under the Sun as well as at Creative K Kids and Denverista and A Life in Tune!  Link up and tell your friends!  The most clicked link will be the featured blogger next week as well as have the opportunity to be the co-host!  You can go here to see my post about Love (Fruit of the Spirit)!

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LET’S GET OUR PARTY ON!

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Fruit of the Spirit: Love- Introduction

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,” Galatians 5:22

Fruit of the Spirit

Love is the first attribute of the fruit of the spirit mentioned. Because it is the first, I want to take time to carefully examine how we are letting God’s love work in us, and through us. In fact, love is such a large  subject, that when I started on it I found it so intimidating to write about. I was worried about trying to fit everything into just one post. After some time spent praying and thinking, and then more thinking and praying I concluded that I will be writing several posts on the topic of love. So sit back get comfortable and join me as I look at look love from different angles over the coming weeks. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

***If this is a series that you are excited to follow would you please consider sharing the link with your friends via Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, or even emailing it to someone. The point is the more people join us in this series the richer the discussions in the comment section can be. Who knows maybe a friend of yours will need this message today.***

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