Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”
I spent nearly a decade on active duty in the US Navy. I saw more than my share of failed marriages. Many never even knew God. I have been married to Sara for over a decade now. We have had our rough seas, but we have made it through, and I can’t help but think that it’s because we’ve had God guiding one or both of us.
Far too many men think that “I am married, so she does what I say, and that is that!” Boy, are you wrong! The vast majority of failed marriages are because one or both of the participants don’t think the other is pulling their share. A lot of the times it’s the men that think they are entitled to a hot meal when they get home, a cold beer, and an uninterrupted game on the tube after. Wrong again!
If you want to make a marriage work, then you need to approach it the way Jesus approached his bride, the Church. He didn’t demand anything from her. On the contrary, he helped her, washed her, got her ready, and then when she was clean and dressed in the purest of linens took her as his bride, in front of the whole world. He made this promise, everlasting, so that we would know what we should model our relationships after. All we have to do is be willing to put our mate first.
So often, you will find that a woman is willing to bend over backwards to please her husband. Cook his favorite meals any day of the week. Mix a drink after a tough day at work. Let him out for a night with the fellas. How often do men try to “hang the moon” for their wives anymore? Today’s society is so male-centric that it’s sometimes frowned upon when a man shows an interest in taking care of his wife the way he ought to. It is really quite simple;
If you want your spouse to do it for you, then you should be willing to do it for them!!!
I can’t say that enough. In our house, Sara tends house and raises the girls. I have to work outside the home. If she wanted to swap, I would be happy to let her, and she knows it. I also know, that if I can’t take people anymore, that she is willing to go back to work and I can stay home. We both help out with the farm chores. We both take care of the girls when we can, but for the ten to twelve hours a day that I am gone, it’s her. She’s pretty good at it, and I don’t tell her often enough.
***Please join me next week as we look at the exhortation for the wife, “must respect her husband.” If you have missed any of the prior discussions in this series you can find them here: Introduction, Love Your God. As always please feel free to share the posts, just remember to link back to the original. You never know who will be blessed because you shared this.***