I want to take a few moments and write about something that is near and dear to my heart, my husband. This man is my longest held close friendship, he has been my best friend since we were 15 years old. Rusty is the smartest man I know. His IQ is higher than anyone else’s that I know of, and he thinks of things in ways I never would have imagined. He can make me laugh, and help me to feel secure when it feels like the world is falling in around me. Also, as far as I am concerned, he is the most handsome man I know.
As wonderful as each of those things are, they are not the reason he is on my mind and my heart so much today. Instead it is because everywhere I went people reminded how it is not the norm to be without your spouse for days, weeks, or months at a time. Everything from a simple introduction and someone wondering if I was married, to someone commenting on how they could never be away from their spouse for extended periods of weeks and longer.
Facing extended absences like this from my best friend has never been easy, even when I have had a support network in place who gets it. I have had girlfriends who I could call the last minute to help with the kids, when I needed a break. Or girlfriends I could call when I wake up at 2 a.m. in a cold sweat from a nightmare and just need to talk it out. As wonderful and understanding as they are, none of them can replace Daddy in my girls’ eyes, or stop me from wanting to wake Rusty, so he can hold me, even though he is not there.
I may not be the woman who gets weepy the day he leaves, but my heart still sinks as I see him walk out that door, whether it be for a day or two, or months. So remember when you comment on how strong I am, that it is just an illusion. I am fragile. I am separated for a time from half of my heart. I continue on with the strength that my Lord grants me. It is in my weakness that I find my strength. (2 Corinthians 12:10)
When someone comments to me that they could never do what I do, most often I just smile and nod these days. Every now and then I want to tell them:
Loving this man is the easiest thing I have ever done. It is my trust and faith in the Lord that gives me the strength to carry on when my husband is absent. Saying good-bye is never easy, though. It is never something I look forward too. I miss him everyday he is gone. I do what I do though because I love him and he is worth every lonely day and long night apart.
So when I say the biggest perk of his new job is we will get to spend everyday together, it is not a novel idea. It is not something cheesy and oh so cute. It is the biggest desire of my heart. It is a dream come true for me, and no,` I am not over stating it.
***Can you relate to long separations or have you been blessed with a marriage where you get to be together each day? Is this a transition you have made in your marriage? If so, do you have any thoughts or advice for those of us who are new to this aspect of marriage?***