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More to Learn

This weekend I didn’t get as much done around here as I could have. The only project I helped with didn’t see my help till it was almost done. If you had stopped by last night around 9 pm, you would have found me standing in a large fish tank, attempting to smooth wrinkles in the lining, as the garden hose filled it. See the husband has been working on developing an aquaponics gardening system for the large green house and I was doing my part to help out last night.

More to Learn

The hubby busy building and assembling the fish tank.

The only other major things I did around the house this weekend involved my kitchen, the cooking and cleaning of it. Well that and cupcakes. My sweet sister-in-law turned 20 and I made red velvet cheesecake stuffed cupcakes for her.

See the reason I didn’t step outside the kitchen much and do more work around the property is simple, I stepped outside the kitchen and did something better with my time. I chose to spend time with the Lord. “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”  Luke 10: 41-42 See this weekend I was a little more Mary and a little less Martha. I chose what was better. I chose to spend time with my Lord, learning about my Lord, deepening my walk with him, and walking away refreshed. I went to a women’s conference hosted by my church. The topic: Walking In Faith.

I learned many things, and I was reminded of many things. You are never too old or too young to be used by the Lord. We just need to ask the Holy Spirit  to come and do work in our lives. Don’t judge who you are, by how you are. In other words our worth is not defined by our choices or our circumstances, but rather by the love of our Creator. And those are just a couple of the nuggets that touched my heart.

Shirt design by NBT

Shirt design by NBT

Through out this confrence I was also challenged to let go of stress. One of the fruits of the spirit is joy. Laughter is a by product of joy, and you can not hold on to stress and laugh. To take this idea further the speaker offered some points to help you, “Be Up In A Down World.”

  1. Pay attention to the world around you, God’s beauty is everywhere.
  2. Listen. People in our lives need us to listen.
  3. Learn. Read. Discover New things.
  4. Want to feel better? Laugh.
  5. Ask for help. Lean on one another. (Or as I heard someone else say once, don’t stand in the way of your own blessings.)
  6. Love. We all could use more love.

As the confrence wrapped up and I was listening to the closing music and reflecting on what the Lord laid upon my heart, I penned my final thoughts.

I need more laughter in my life.
I need less computer.
I need more God.
I need less stress.
I need more patience.
I need less tv.
I need more books.
I need less busy.

*** What is it that you could use more or less of in your life?***

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Fruit of the Spirit: Discovering Your Joy

Have you ever met a person that seemed no matter their circumstance to be full of joy? I have been accused of being that person. I say accused because I am not sure I am as full of joy as I might like to be or even should be. Perhaps it is all a process and all I can do is to press on and strive to be more like the one who has saved my soul. So today the wisdom I share with you is wisdom I am still learning. It is not my own wisdom that I seek to share, and I am writing to remind myself as much as anything else, today.

Discovering Your Joy

How To Discover Joy In Your Life

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” John 15: 9-11  Here we see Jesus instructing us to keep his commands and in doing so we will remain in his love. It is through him and his love that we discover joy and that our joy can be made complete.

To find out what Jesus commands of us all we must do is go to: Matthew 22: 36-40. “‘Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?’ Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”  It won’t always be easy to love your neighbor as yourself, but it will be worth it. Tough times will come and you may question how God could even be a loving God, and then you might even begin to wonder how you could love God when it doesn’t even feel like he loves you.

But he does love you. He loves you so much that he has something better in mind for you, for each of us. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 So even though we live in this world that is broken and filled with pain and sin, God loves us enough to offer us a path to his salvation. All we need to do is accept Jesus.

 

It is through these three truths that we can begin to discover a deep and lasting joy. This is a joy that no one can steal from you. It will not be dependent on your circumstances, but rather you can radiate this joy even in the toughest of times.

 

***Please feel free to comment with any thoughts or questions. I welcome feedback. Thank you for visiting. Now if you have missed any of my prior posts here are the links just for you:  IntroductionLove Your GodLove Your Wives, Submitting To And Respecting Our Husbands, Love Your ChildrenLoving Your Neighbor, and What is Joy.***

 

Fruit of the Spirit: Submitting To And Respecting Our Husbands

“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-24

“… and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5: 33b

Submitting to And Respecting Your Husbands

There it is two of the hottest and scariest topics to ever bring up in conversation in this culture, especially if you adhere to those ideas. A couple of weeks ago a friend and I were talking and I said, “Yes I am all for submission in marriage.” That is a far as I could get and her eyes got wide, and her jaw dropped, just a little. I could read her face that she had whole host of things to say in response, but before she could get there I stopped a moment and asked her to hear me out follow me with this a moment and that is what I am asking you to do. Follow me with this a moment and if you disagree or have questions when I am done I  am here to listen.

You are also probably wondering how these topics relate to love and ultimately fruit of the spirit. It is my sincere and heart-felt belief that it is through submission and respect toward our husbands that we demonstrate the kind of love that God is calling us toward in our marriages. I understand in this modern age we want to be independent woman. We want to be strong. We want to have it all, and we want to prove we are equal to men. These verses apply to even the most independent and modern of women today. God is not calling us to a position of weakness, but rather love and honor.

I heard someone talk about submission once in the context of the military chain of command. Imagine for the moment that God has made your husband the captain, or the CO, of your household, and you, the wife, second in command or the XO. Does your husband’s position negate the authority of yours? No, you are still a strong capable woman who has years of experience that you bring to this position. You are the one he can trust to take care of things in his stead. You are the one he can turn to, to help him sort through difficult decisions. Your husband may even defer to your expertise in many areas of decision-making. But the Lord has said that as the husband he is still the head of the household.

What does that mean then? It means as the CO he is responsible for the decisions of the household, even if he deferred to your best judgement. He will be the one held accountable for the decisions of the household, even if you make them together. So when I say I submit to your husbands this is what I am saying, “Let him lead. Provide wise counsel, but let him lead.” You married this man. Trust him. Trust his judgement. Believe in him.

Now I am not saying to let him lead you down the path of sin. You know what sin is, and you know how God feels about sin. God is an even higher authority than anyone here on earth. So as long as your husband’s leading lines up with scripture: Follow. So you if you two are disagreeing over say paint colors and not with issues of sin follow your husband’s lead.

As the XO of our household’s it is also our responsibility to be respectful toward our husband’s. Now some of you may be arguing right about now that my husband doesn’t deserve my respect. When he acts in a particular way then I will so him respect. If we refer back to Ephesians 5:33 we will see that we are not told to  respect our husbands some of the time, when we feel like it, or even when he earns our respect. The wife is told to respect her husband, no conditions or pre-requisites, just unconditional respect.

What does that look like? It looks like no longer airing his ‘offenses’ to any and every listening ear. It means standing up for him when someone asks well how do you possibly deal with that sort of behavior. (He is a grown man, capable of making his own decisions, and he just likes to have fun.) It means extending him trust. Respect is bragging about his accomplishments and working together behind the scenes to fix the rough patches. It means stop nagging, and start asking. It means all that and so much more.

Ladies what can you do today that would be a little more respectful than you did yesterday? In what ways could you let your husband lead the household a bit more?

*** If you have missed any of the prior discussions in this series you can find them here: IntroductionLove Your God, and Love Your Wives . As always please feel free to share the posts, just remember to link back to the original. You never know who will be blessed because you shared this.***

 

 

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Lessons From The Baby: How To Share With Your Older Siblings

Sharing: Even when the request doesn’t always make sense, when it is with in your power to do so, do it. It is nice to share.

Lessons From The Baby: How To Share With Your Older Siblings

She is wearing the baby’s pants. This little girl is 4, and she is wearing pants for a 12-month old.

“Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.” Hebrews 13: 16

Lessons From The Baby: When What We Seek Is Behind a Closed Door

Sometimes in life we need to seek out the ones we love, or the answers to our questions. And don’t stop seeking just because a door is closed. Knock. It might just open.

When What We Seek Is Behind A Closed Door

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.” Matthew &:7-8

Fruit of the Spirit: Love- Introduction

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,” Galatians 5:22

Fruit of the Spirit

Love is the first attribute of the fruit of the spirit mentioned. Because it is the first, I want to take time to carefully examine how we are letting God’s love work in us, and through us. In fact, love is such a large  subject, that when I started on it I found it so intimidating to write about. I was worried about trying to fit everything into just one post. After some time spent praying and thinking, and then more thinking and praying I concluded that I will be writing several posts on the topic of love. So sit back get comfortable and join me as I look at look love from different angles over the coming weeks. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

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Happy Anniversary: Ten Beautiful Years

I know I had said I was going to take the month of December off, but this post could not wait until January. Today, Dec 13, 2013, celebrates 10 years of marriage for myself and Rusty. It is that milestone I want to take moment and write about today. Some days I can hardly believe that the good Lord has granted us a decade of marriage so far.
 
Ephesians 5 31
 

My love,

One year ago we were celebrating 9 years in Canton, MI. In this last year we have lived in three homes. Saw a job change, and the birth of our beautiful and silly third born daughter. We have also started homeshooling. I have started a blog. Most importantly we have faced the challenges together, and with the Lord before us. “In your heart you plan your life. But the LORD decides where your steps will take you.”  Proverbs 16: 9 (NIRV)

Two years ago we were celebrating 8 years in Norfolk, VA. I can’t even remember what we did that anniversary, but I remember we were spending it together despite the fact the month before at that time we had anticipated you being in Bahrain. As it was the Navy had other plans.  You were being ERB’d out and were home with us. That year saw the birth of our sweet little ‘bruiser,’ Paige. It saw us sending you away on a deployment and your return. Your return meant facing the unknown, and going forth in a direction we had not planned. In this I chose to remember, ” For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

Three years ago we were back in Norfolk, after you tried your hand recruiting in Saginaw. That year you made me a wonderful hand-made gift. Sadly I have yet to use the beauty. Still I hope one day to see the thing put to good use. I love you and appreciate all your hard work. “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.”  Ecclesiastes 9:9

Four years ago we celebrated 6 years in Saginaw, MI. This year we celebrated our anniversary with our not even two-month old miracle baby, Chloe. After years of trying, failing, and praying the Lord blessed us with Miss Chloe. When I think back to 2009 I think the joy in finding out we would be expecting our first, her birth, and how you had decided to give recruiting a go. “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:16 

The flowers Rusty got me for our 5th wedding anniversary, Dec 13th, 2008.

The flowers Rusty got me for our 5th wedding anniversary, Dec 13th, 2008.

Five years ago we celebrated our anniversary together, after having spent months apart. It was a challenging year. We saw some of our lowest lows, but we made it through. When I wandered you never let go. It was your turn to hold on tight.  Thank you for sticking by my side, darling. “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4: 9-11

Six years ago we had faced another year that was challenging. There was a period I was sure we wouldn’t see five years of marriage. Through tears and prayers I held on the best I could. We came back together. Things were not perfect, but life is a journey and we decided to travel it together. “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18: 21-22

Seven years ago we spent our anniversary apart. It was not due to fighting, but rather due to duty. Your duty to your country had you serving aboard a ship, The Wasp.  It was gone this day. As far as that year goes, we had bought our first house and began turning it into a home. A sweet little (843 sq ft) two bedroom home that served us well until 2011. While that home no longer stands it will forever hold many memories, both good and bad. “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” Proverbs 14: 1

Eight years ago, in 2005, we were celebrating our anniversary for the first time in Virginia. In our apartment on the bay we had a lovely view of the water and the base.  You could fish from the pier. I could sit on the porch and watch the water. From the porch I discovered I could also see when your ship was in port and when it was away. It was in that home my body began a journey back to health. While we didn’t realize it at the time it was a year of rest. The years to come would hold challenges we  beyond anything we had yet to even imagine, granted most of them were of our own design. “He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters” Psalms 23: 2

Nine years ago we celebrated our very first anniversary. It was bittersweet. I was sick in bed and you lovingly kept watch over me. While the chemotherapy took its toll you ,my best friend, stood by my side tending to me. Thank you for holding my hair when I was sick. Thank you for picking me up when I went down.  Thank you for standing by my side, wrapping my frail form in your arms, and loving me even when I was bald. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5: 25

Happy Anniversary: Ten Beautiful Years

On our wedding day I married my best friend. 10 years later I am still married to my best friend. We have come through some difficult times. We have had our lows, and we have seen marvelous views from the mountain top moments. Since life does not occur at the top of the mountains, but rather in the valleys. I am ready to see more valleys with you by my side, because with you by my side I know we will reach the next mountain top.  “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31

My prayer for us is this:

Dear Lord,

May we keep our eyes fixed upon you. May my hand hold fast to my husband. May our knees be quick to drop to pray when the going gets tough. May patience, kindness, love, gentleness, and self-control rule our lives. And may we always be a light for you in this world.

Amen

 

***Thank you for sharing these memories with me, dear reader. What are some special memories you share with your spouse? And if this has touched your heart please feel free to share it.***

 

Denverista
’Blessed

Have A Happy Thanksgiving: You are Blessed

Alright, so I know I am a day early on this, but since I post a whole three days a week I wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving today. I think the older I get the more it becomes my favorite holiday. It is a day set aside to remember our blessings. No matter how bad things get there are still things to be thankful for.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving: You are Blessed

This last Sunday in church the pastor told a story about a local man who had just lost his home in a storm. It was a horrible storm that had completely scattered his four walls and his belongings. One of his neighbors had come up to him and said, “Bob.” (Let’s call him Bob because I don’t remember his name. “Bob, you have lost everything.”

Bob replied, “No I have not. I still have my wife, my family, my friends, my health, the ability to work and the drive to go earn a living. And not least of all I have the assurance of my salvation through my faith in Jesus Christ, who died on the cross.”

Now while I may not have quoted the tale exactly I know I have captured it’s essence and that is what is important today. See Bob understood that there are things in life that are far more valuable than his stuff. It is those intangible things that we possess even in the trials that we should be remembering to give thanks for.

Sometimes though life might throw you a curve ball or two or ten, and you can’t claim to have your health, job, family, etc… It is then I would suggest that Christ is there for you more than anyone else. He has stepped into the gap, washed you clean, and provided you a chance at salvation. All you need do is believe in him. Believe that he was, who he said he was. Believe that he was persecuted for you, and that he died for you. Christ died for each of us, while we were still yet sinners. He did not wait till we got things right. So when things are a mess Jesus is not revolted. He is there, ready to welcome you with open arms. If you have turned from those arms, run back to him today and wait for his warm embrace. If you have never known the love of God, and want to accept him, I am here to pray with you.

Happy Thanksgiving

“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

***What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?***

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{Cheri} Under The Sun- Thankful For the Fleas

Rusty and I have moved around a lot in our almost 10 years of marriage. In fact, we have had 7 major moves. (That does not count the moves within the same city or to the next town over.) It is in one of those moves that I met Cheri. Cheri is a sweet lady, who has a passion for the Lord and homeschooling. Even though she and I only spent a short time together we are still in contact, and when I began searching for people to contribute to this month of thankfulness she is one of the people I turned to. 

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Thankful For The Fleas

We’re all thankful for our families, our friends, our homes, and food on our tables. We’re also thankful when things work out the way we want to, when someone we love recovers quickly from an illness, isn’t hurt in an accident, or avoids a disaster of some sort. Most of us can even be thankful by finding the good in a difficult situation – a couple of weeks ago I was grateful that, even though my dad was in the hospital, he didn’t end up needing surgery.

I was reminded recently of Corrie ten Boom’s story about her time in the concentration camp – she and her sister were assigned to  barracks that were infested with fleas.  As they prayed together, her sister insisted that they express thanks to God for everything – even the fleas!  Corrie really struggled with this idea (in the same way I struggle with some of the crosses I have to bear in this life) but ultimately, she did join her sister in  thanking God for the fleas.  You probably know the rest of the story – how it turned out that the fleas were the very things keeping the guards out of their barracks, allowing them to continue to read and study their Bibles together!

I always have to remind myself that it isn’t really about making lemonade when life gives you lemons but knowing that God has a plan that includes the lemons in my life – we just can’t always see it from our vantage point like He can from His. Sometimes He doesn’t reveal the purpose for the fleas in my life and I never come to understand why He’s allowed them, but because I know that He is faithful, I always know that He does have a purpose for them and that He is using them for good in my life.  And, that is what makes me thankful, even for the fleas in my life.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.   Romans 8:28

Your love, Lord, reaches to the heavens,  your faithfulness to the skies.  Psalm 36:5

 

Cheri Pelic is grateful to be saved by the blood of Jesus Christ. She lives in Northville, MI with her husband Ed, teenagers Molly and Max, and their dog, Toto.

***Have you ever considered being thankful for the fleas in your own life? What are some of the challenges you have face when trying to being thankful for the fleas?***

Give Thanks

“Give thanks with a grateful heart, give thanks to the holy one, give thanks because he has given Jesus Christ, his son…” (When I think of those lyrics I think of the version by Praise Baby, but Don Moen originally sang it.)

A thank you card I had my 4-year old write.

A thank you card I had my 4-year old write.

Those words remind us how we are supposed to live our lives. Every day we should be seeing the good in our lives. Even if we are on the darkest journey we carry the brightest light with us, the love of God, but only if we have accepted it.

Because we are still human we are prone to wander. When we wander it may not always be far, but it is then we have lost sight of what really matters, God’s redeeming love.

So it is months like November, that serve as a reminder to give thanks. To give thanks to the Lord not only for food, a warm home, health, friends, or family. We should also be giving thanks to the Lord, for the Lord, and for his sacrificial love.

So as it would be  here at {Sara} Under the Sun, I want to share stories of thankfulness  with you  this month. Some from myself and others from friends around the world. Each story is unique. Each person sharing is very different. It is my sincere hope though each one will bless you just the same, and remind you to give thanks each day.

***If you have a tale of thanks and blessing that you can share, let me know. You can share it in the comment section, put it on Under the Sun’s Facebook page, or possibly you could be a contributor here this month.***