I know I had said I was going to take the month of December off, but this post could not wait until January. Today, Dec 13, 2013, celebrates 10 years of marriage for myself and Rusty. It is that milestone I want to take moment and write about today. Some days I can hardly believe that the good Lord has granted us a decade of marriage so far.
One year ago we were celebrating 9 years in Canton, MI. In this last year we have lived in three homes. Saw a job change, and the birth of our beautiful and silly third born daughter. We have also started homeshooling. I have started a blog. Most importantly we have faced the challenges together, and with the Lord before us. “In your heart you plan your life. But the LORD decides where your steps will take you.” Proverbs 16: 9 (NIRV)
Two years ago we were celebrating 8 years in Norfolk, VA. I can’t even remember what we did that anniversary, but I remember we were spending it together despite the fact the month before at that time we had anticipated you being in Bahrain. As it was the Navy had other plans. You were being ERB’d out and were home with us. That year saw the birth of our sweet little ‘bruiser,’ Paige. It saw us sending you away on a deployment and your return. Your return meant facing the unknown, and going forth in a direction we had not planned. In this I chose to remember, ” For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
Three years ago we were back in Norfolk, after you tried your hand recruiting in Saginaw. That year you made me a wonderful hand-made gift. Sadly I have yet to use the beauty. Still I hope one day to see the thing put to good use. I love you and appreciate all your hard work. “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9
Four years ago we celebrated 6 years in Saginaw, MI. This year we celebrated our anniversary with our not even two-month old miracle baby, Chloe. After years of trying, failing, and praying the Lord blessed us with Miss Chloe. When I think back to 2009 I think the joy in finding out we would be expecting our first, her birth, and how you had decided to give recruiting a go. “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:16
The flowers Rusty got me for our 5th wedding anniversary, Dec 13th, 2008.
Five years ago we celebrated our anniversary together, after having spent months apart. It was a challenging year. We saw some of our lowest lows, but we made it through. When I wandered you never let go. It was your turn to hold on tight. Thank you for sticking by my side, darling. “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?” Ecclesiastes 4: 9-11
Six years ago we had faced another year that was challenging. There was a period I was sure we wouldn’t see five years of marriage. Through tears and prayers I held on the best I could. We came back together. Things were not perfect, but life is a journey and we decided to travel it together. “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times? “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18: 21-22
Seven years ago we spent our anniversary apart. It was not due to fighting, but rather due to duty. Your duty to your country had you serving aboard a ship, The Wasp. It was gone this day. As far as that year goes, we had bought our first house and began turning it into a home. A sweet little (843 sq ft) two bedroom home that served us well until 2011. While that home no longer stands it will forever hold many memories, both good and bad. “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” Proverbs 14: 1
Eight years ago, in 2005, we were celebrating our anniversary for the first time in Virginia. In our apartment on the bay we had a lovely view of the water and the base. You could fish from the pier. I could sit on the porch and watch the water. From the porch I discovered I could also see when your ship was in port and when it was away. It was in that home my body began a journey back to health. While we didn’t realize it at the time it was a year of rest. The years to come would hold challenges we beyond anything we had yet to even imagine, granted most of them were of our own design. “He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters” Psalms 23: 2
Nine years ago we celebrated our very first anniversary. It was bittersweet. I was sick in bed and you lovingly kept watch over me. While the chemotherapy took its toll you ,my best friend, stood by my side tending to me. Thank you for holding my hair when I was sick. Thank you for picking me up when I went down. Thank you for standing by my side, wrapping my frail form in your arms, and loving me even when I was bald. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5: 25
On our wedding day I married my best friend. 10 years later I am still married to my best friend. We have come through some difficult times. We have had our lows, and we have seen marvelous views from the mountain top moments. Since life does not occur at the top of the mountains, but rather in the valleys. I am ready to see more valleys with you by my side, because with you by my side I know we will reach the next mountain top. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31
My prayer for us is this:
May we keep our eyes fixed upon you. May my hand hold fast to my husband. May our knees be quick to drop to pray when the going gets tough. May patience, kindness, love, gentleness, and self-control rule our lives. And may we always be a light for you in this world.
***Thank you for sharing these memories with me, dear reader. What are some special memories you share with your spouse? And if this has touched your heart please feel free to share it.***