You would think after nine years of living the military lifestyle I would be a pro at hurry up and wait. You would be wrong though. The waiting makes me more fidgety than a cat on a hot tin roof. I am spoiled.
I am spoiled by an instant world. I thoroughly enjoy web pages that load in seconds, books that are instantly delivered to my tablet, kindle, phone, or computer. I am spoiled by meals that can be ready in under 20 minutes for 6 people. No longer do I have to wait for the bank to open in the morning to cash a check, I can now cash a check at home with a scanner or a mobile app. With Netflix or Amazon Instant Videos there is no longer a need for me to go rent a video from a store.
With all that instant, I find that having to wait for anything is just about the hardest thing. I have decided that the Lord must be using my marriage to teach me patience. It is not only the through the differing of opinions and learning how to handle the little quirks that my marriage is teaching me to grow. I am growing through the separations, and the coming together again. In the separations I am learning what it means to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5) and to find my comfort in the Lord. It is also during the time apart that I have learned to appreciate my husband more.
While reunions are an incredibly joyous and sweet time, they are also a time of adjustment, especially after having been apart for an extended period. It is a period where you face the many “fork and spoon” moments. This was a description of a type of argument I heard about as I was preparing for my husband to come home from a deployment. The speaker prepared us by saying you each have lived your lives separately for the last months, now you will need to learn how to live together again. They gave the example that while the husband was away you reorganized the silverware drawer to a new way, that you felt was more efficient. When your husband comes home and is looking for a spoon in the morning before work and instead grabs a fork this could easily be a scenario to set off an argument. If you are anticipating there will be a periods of adjustment, such as “the fork and spoon moment” you can be prepared and remember this is not easy for him either. (Proverbs 10:12)
Now why do I bring this all up? Because my instant world is soon going to come face to face with something that is going to teach me the value of having more patience. Rusty leaves for his new job on the 14th of August. The girls and I will need to stay behind in Michigan until he has a place for us in Alabama. I want to hurry up though, and be in Alabama all together. Not only because I will miss my darling hubby, but because this will be the first job my husband has held since we have been married that promises he will be home each night.
This job promises that we will eventually have a shot at spending my birthday together. (We have only spent two of my birthdays together in the almost ten years we have been married.) This job holds the promises for three little girls the opportunity to see their Daddy every day. This job promises our family a sense of stability and continuity that comes with being together each day.
So do I want to wait? Do I want the Lord to use this time of transition to teach me patience? No I don’t want to wait. I would rather the Lord use this time to teach me to grow in some other way. Alas, I see another lesson on patience in my future, as I hurry up and wait for the next step in my life.
***How well do you handle having to wait? How is God working in this area of your life?***