Messages, Judgments, Choices, and Your Kids

Spank your kids or else they will be unruly, disrespectful, little brats.

Messages, Judgments, Choices, and Your Kids

Spank your kids and you will damage their self-esteem,  teach them violence equals love, or that they can bully those smaller than them.

Give them time outs kids need discipline, they need order, they need consequences.

Give them time outs and they feel shamed, neglected, humiliated, isolated.

Breastfeed. It is best, it is natural, it is cheap, you are doing what only comes naturally.

Breastfeed. But only at home, only when I don’t know what you are doing, only when you can find a place alone, or only when you and baby are fully covered.

Bottle feed in public and no one tells you to cover the baby, to go to the next room, or go to the bathroom to do that.

Bottle feed though and hear the whispers, feel misunderstood,  or even just feel defeated.

Buy organic, free range, cruelty free, hormone free, non-gmo it is best. It is the only way to go.

Buy what you can do your best, don’t worry about the gmo’s it is all hype anyway.

Homeschool vs. Public School vs. Private School vs. Charter School

Cry it Out vs. Not Crying it Out

Free Range Parenting vs Helicopter Parenting vs Any one who falls in between

Parenting can take on many forms. We hear many messages each and everyday on how other people think we should be doing it. We might even be putting on our judgy pants and telling other parents how they are doing things wrong.

We might even feel justified in judging, giving un-asked for advice, or commenting about their choices in not so hushed tones. Maybe it is because we have raised our kids, and they are successful happy adults. Maybe it is because our kids are older, or we have more kids. Maybe it is because our kids did something like that once. Or maybe it is because we just don’t understand.

That last one there is the real kicker, isn’t it? Do we  really understand? Have we walked a mile in that person’s shoes? Don’t judge, what you don’t understand. Let each of us extend grace, encouragement, love, and support.

That tired, distracted mama with a real stinker of a kid? Give her a supportive smile. Heck maybe you are the friend who can help distract the kid for a moment, while she takes a breathe, finishes a phone call, or cooks dinner.

Instead of telling a friend all the, “Well I would do’s,” ask them about why they made the choices they made. Then listen, really listen.

In the end remember, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it might benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29) It is not our place to be critical of their choices. We are not the ones who were tasked with raising their children. Instead let us, Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32)



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